The essential don’ts of dating

This is, in a way, an extension of the previous blog, in which we talked about some essential dos of dating. Like we already said, everyone likes to think they are the master of human relationships when, in reality, relatively few people are Moreover, so many otherwise intelligent and capable people frequently tend to forget about some basic rules of behavior, especially right after they meet someone new and want to start a relationship.

The good news is that this is why you have all the resources where you can get relationship advice. From all the books you can buy, which will cost you a lot of money, and all the friends you can talk to, which will probably be embarrassing, to this kind of free advice you can find on the internet… which is probably the most convenient way to go about all that. Now on to the good part – the basics on what not to do if you want your new relationship to become successful.

Don’t push things

We know, we know, you’ve met the perfect person and you want them to get attached to you instantly so you can feel secure and never have to let them go. This is not how life works, we are sad to inform you. Once you actually meet someone new, it is essential to give them as much space as you can, so they can decide for themselves whether they like you. The worst thing you can do is push things, because this way you will potentially get someone to like you, only to reject you and run away after a brief period.

Don’t tell too much

This goes hand-in-hand with the first rule, and is also something people too often tend to forget. When you start dating someone, it is essential to pace yourself and not overwhelm that person with too much information. Even if you have the best intentions, it is true you will only push them away by constantly talking. Besides, this will also make you appear narcissistic, something you definitely don’t want.

Don’t be jealous

This is, actually, one of the trickiest things to accomplish. Jealousy is a completely irrational feeling and can appear at any time. It is especially present in fresh and new relationships, where you are only getting to know the person and you don’t know enough about their history and their friends to make informed opinions on their love interests and why they would matter. Still, always take a step back and a deep breath – nothing will destroy your new fling faster than the spark of jealousy.

Don’t spoil the other person

Finally, another important thing to know. Just because you have a new partner, doesn’t mean you should share everything with them and pamper the straight away. This kind of behavior will cause many people to start acting spoiled from the get-go, and this is definitely something to be avoided. You need a clean and honest relationship.

Internet dating: target what you are looking for

You have decided to go for it! “Take your time”, recommends psychologist Sébastien Tubau. You’ve made a list of criteria on who you are and who you’re looking for, well done! Go further: Talk about your dream in the best manchats. All shrinks say it: in the couple, there is you, him and the relationship. “It is an entity in its own right,” insists our expert. Some people want to get into a relationship for fear of loneliness. Ask yourself if this is your case.
Now ask yourself the right questions like: “What do you want to go through in a relationship?” This is a prerequisite for finding the site that best matches your search. Create a profile in your image
Presenting yourself under your best profile is often the goal you set for yourself. Sébastien Tubau was able to observe certain recurring themes in the profiles. “Some Internet users highlight their physique. For others, especially when it comes to men, the factual dominates: athletic, adoring travel.” In the end, the profiles are similar around large families. Why ? “Entering into a relationship is a risk from which we unconsciously try to protect ourselves by reassuring ourselves by a host of normative criteria”, our expert replies.

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